While talking to several of my audiences and colleagues, I found that anger and frustration is a common with them. Some of them kept complaining that they find the people they deal very frustrating and it is essential for them to change if they have to be at peace.

If one has to be happy – one must have the ability and attitude to adapt to his surrounding. The easiest change anyone can bring is to oneself. If one cannot change oneself, how is it possible to change other on whom you have almost no control. People bothering to change others are more prone to anger, frustration and stress. On the other hand, there are several of my colleagues who ensure that they understand their surroundings and either adapt or make minor changes in their attitudes to adjust to their surrounding. Surprisingly enough they also are able to influence the people they interact with more effectively that others who try to push them.

A couple who were on the verge of splitting started complaining about their inability to live with each. The man complained that all his efforts to change his wife have been futile over years and now it was impossible for him to live with her. Lady on the other hand had exactly similar charges. They both were trying to change each other without wanting to change themselves. Needless to say that immense stress and frustration was affecting their health and also their success prospects. They ended up looking for partners outside their marriage which became even more of a social issue.

Looking at their handwriting, I could conclude that both of them were argumentative and not flexible. Through grapho therapy, both of them were changed to be more accommodative and flexible. This helped not only save their marriage but also move faster in their success lane.

The essence of this post is that before we try and attempt changing others, we should see within ourselves and understand where we can change or adapt ourselves for better. It will help us succeed faster.

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